I was speaking with one of my clients last week to help him get his property ready to go to market. I told him that he would not believe how demanding buyers and their agents are today. You cannot leave anything to chance. I said though it is a group effort to take a house to closing, each party involved in the transaction sees it as a "me" event.
This man is a medical doctor that works with people with narcissus. He told me that most of us are born with a bit of "entitlement" but how we are raised is how we control those feelings. He went onto say that the family is being broken down and that he is seeing a rise in the "me first" syndrome. When we were a farming society, the family worked together to get the job done. It was an expectation for the child to work on the farm and not "unfair." During the depression a kid dropped out of school and went to work and gave up his education to help the family put food on the table. Along came WWII and sacrifice was the way of life. No one was allowed to complain as everyone was hurting due to the war. Then we move into the 50's and the family structure moved off the farm and children were not expected to work like their parents had. Due to many reasons women left the home full time and went into the work force. Along comes the computer and we don't even have to leave our houses to play bridge or meet the person who we will love for life. The computer will do it for us. All of this has allowed us to become "Me centered."
All parties involved in a real estate transaction and other transactions need to realize there are more people involved in the transaction than themselves. They might think it is not much to change a closing time, but in reality it is changing the times of 6 different people. Asking a 92 year old woman in a wheel chair to repair a broken screen when the buyer is 30 and can get to and from a hardware store easily is a situation that needs to be reviewed. My feeling is that because we do such a good job of making sure the buyers and sellers never see one another and agents rarely meet face to face, that we become harden and can ask anything of anybody.
It is time we bring warmth, caring, and Us into the real estate transaction. It takes many parties to make the sale and closing come together. At the end of the process we want to thank many people and bless us all that the house closed.
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